My Definition Of Forgiveness May Surprise You… | Mel Robbins

My definition of forgiveness may surprise you… | Mel Robbins

My husband Chris asked me a really interesting question the other day…

He asked, “Is forgiveness a single act, or is it a muscle that you need to exercise over time in order to achieve total forgiveness?”

I think it’s both. I think it’s a skill you practice every day. But you first have to understand and experience what true forgiveness is.

To me, forgiveness means that you’re no longer torturing yourself over what happened. The power of forgiveness is to be able to move on in your mind and heal your heart.

If you’re stuck wishing things were different or making yourself wrong about what you’re trying to forgive, you’re going to feel a tremendous amount of pain. Forgiveness is about freeing yourself from that, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and mentally.

The only way you’re going to be able to forgive is if you can literally stop wishing things had been different and accept the fact that things are the way that they are.

Give yourself grace. Give yourself time. Make the choice to forgive for YOURSELF. Every experience in your life, good and bad, is giving you the experience you need for something that is coming in the future. You just have to look for the lesson. ❤️

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